No Shouting~!

Saw this article in The Star today in the Heart & Soul section, a very meaningful article, and it is worth-sharing indeed :)

Once a professor asked his students " Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?" The students thought for a while before one of them said :" We shout because we lose our calm?"

" But why shout when other people is just next to you? Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice?"

The students gave various answers, none of which satisfied the professor.

Finally he explained :" When two people are angry with each other, their hearts distance. To cover the distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the louder they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance."

Then he asked :"What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly. Why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small."

"When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak- they only whisper and get closer to each other in their love."

"Finally they do not even need to whisper. They only look at each other, that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other."

So, when you argue, do not let your hearts get distance of say words that distance each other even more, or there may come a day when the distance is so great you will not find the path back to each other.

-Starmag, Sunday 9 Jan 2011-

Stop Arguing Your Friendship to Death

What you think about rivalry between friends?? For me, it's like a friendship toxic waste. Well, people argue for reason, but destructive arguing between friends will eventually destroy a friendships. They used to say that the opposite of arguing isn't agreement in all things, it is knowing how to disagree and still maintain mutual respect and liking. I strongly agree with this.

Hmm, there are actually few reasons that caused this thing to happen-- Jealousy, Misunderstand, Cannot agree with each others on something, or maybe there is another person that trying to spoil the friendship, and so forth.

I just couldn't understand when i see friends talking bad about each others when they themselves are doing the same thing. Friends backstab, misunderstand, gossip and even argue with each others over some small things are seriously damn funny....Hmm, maybe friendship is really so fragile for them???... i just couldn't understand why....

Well, I am just feeling a bit disappointed all in a sudden, that's why I am writing this....friends that used to be so close become so unfamiliar....

Today, I saw many high school friends posting stupid shout out in Facebook, knowing that they are having some big argument over a stupid thing. Couldn't do much as i am not that close with them, but i feel damn one kind...I don't understand why they can't just settle things face to face but posted it in Facebook and letting the whole world knows about the argument???? Well, it's kinda stupid....letting more people to know will just makes the situation gets even worse.

Tells it out face to face if you really appreciate your friendship with them....how if it is just a small thing that caused misunderstand.....don't you think that it's not worth at all??? Tells it out and let him or her knows what you think....don't just keep quiet and pretend to be okay when it's not....